Dan in Real Life questions

2. Three tips I can give to Parents of teenagers are:

First of all, to not be so controlling, we need freedom to do our own stuff. When it comes down to real life we are so sheltered from so much stuff that some react really badly when they are finally on their own. It just goes down hill from there.

Second is to let them become their own individual, if they like a certain style or hobby don´t hate on it all the time, let them be themselves, they have different interest than you and that is perfectly fine. My dad struggled a lot when I told him sports just are not for me. 

Third is to be there for them and care, even if you don´t understand them, try and put yourself in their shoes instead of being rude and blowing it off. Communication is key, remember that. 

4. Parents have to be fair, fair treatment with all their kids, no favoritism and fair with their actions. It´s really hypocritical when they tell you to not do something and they do it, that makes me really mad. So the ¨do as I say, not as I do¨ really makes no sense because we learn from what they do. Also my parents got married after only knowing each other for a year and I have been with my boyfriend for two years and they limit us on EVERYTHING. It goes back to the three tips, give your kids some freedom to go out with friends and have fun and not just be so strict with everything. 

7. I truly don´t think you can fall in love in three days, freshman year I made the mistake of dating someone after only knowing him three days but I was not in love. We dated for a year and it was fun but not worth my time. You don't even really know them in three days, and of course everything is going to be all sweet at first but it doesn't stay like that. Relationships are difficult, there are many arguments, and its not easy. I feel as you do learn a lot from previous relationships, you make mistakes and the outcome reminds you to not do that in the future.

23. Many of my friends have gone after my ex boyfriends, I'm not sure why I have that luck, but I think its pretty funny how the tables turn. They go from taking pictures of you two together to wanting to be with them.  It depends on the situation and what had happened before when I decide to cut people like that out of my life. In one situation, my first boyfriend cheated on me with one of my close friends, I obviously wasn't friends with her or with him after that. Till this day, THREE YEARS after we broke up he still tries to talk to me which I find hysterical. Boys can be extremely dumb. In a different situation, I was not dating this guy yet and I cut things off with him after two weeks but now hes talking to one of my best friends. I was mad at her at first but then I let it go because I was the one that ended that relationship with him and he was definitely not the guy for me. He might be for her though, so if they are happy and I'm happy with my relationship, everything is fine. I still think that is against girl code and real friends wouldn't do that.